Please, Sir, tell me how you want it done.
What is it that brings this full circle? What gives this glorious BDSM relationship the stability and support that allows it to exist? It is Obedience. In the beginning it is obedience to Transparency. It is said that when a submissive holds something back, she is taking control of the relationship. …
Last time I spoke on Transparency (as I have often and before), and the necessity for those on the right side of the D/s or M/s slash (the s) to be clear and complete in their communication to their partner on the left (the D and M) no matter how contradictory or …
I was once told that a three legged stool was the most sable, because it could never wobble. I am not sure if the analogy will hold through this. But it is a good place to start. I often have deeply insightful discussions with my partner pb. Our relationship is slowly …
Yes, I know, I have promised to post more on Exxxotica, but I got hit with some additional surgery, and I am recovering, so just wait, ok? However, in my bed of pain I ran across a tumblr that truly impressed me. It is the first I have ever actually …
So, plans are made to go to Chicago, and I know that BonB will be there. We talk many times on the phone and reminisce about our time in Santa Barbara, two years ago. So many elements of our play go through our minds, strong emotional humiliation, deep submission, violent sadomasochism, and …
It is that time of year again when Exxxotica goes to Chicago. There be my old home town and I greatly enjoy the visit with old high school friends, relatives and significant others, OWS in particular. I have been involved in the Exxxotica Dungeon for 3 maybe 4 years now …
I have been talking quite a bit with close friends and important advisers over the past few weeks about what it is to be a Master. Many areas of discussion came up, one of the most important was the emotional care and involvement that a Master feels towards those who …
First I should apologize for my extended absence. I am an artist by trade, if you can actually use those terms together, and have just finished three shows, one quite major. Immediately following that, I was lucky enough to have some surgery from which I am still recovering. All is …
It has been a long time since I wrote. My mind has been on establishing relationships, becoming comfortable in new communities, establishing a new presence and occupation in my new home, and discovering new places for me in the world. Today I think about questions and the responses they engender in …
I apologize for taking so long to get back to Exxxotica, and this will only be delayed further as I have a heavy weekend ahead and I was recently asked to comment on some important issues. A young mother expressed to me a growing interest in the BDSM lifestyle and …
