Please, Sir, tell me how you want it done.
What happened that night, which included minimal amounts of sleep, was extremely significant and extraordinarily subtle. So much so that it will be difficult to describe. But the importance to communication, understanding, and Dominant and submissive relationships in general can not be overstated. You must understand that the vast amount of our …
So Exxxotica is finished, I am having a delightful time re-exploring my old home town. (Raised from year 1 in the same house on the North Shore outside of Chicago all the way through my college years.) I had a needed opportunity to see my admired and loved cousin and …
We continue onward. After and during Exxxotica I was graced with the generosity of a dear friend, one I have known since College, who I will only name as OWS. He will know why. We spent the next week together when he was not at work and he very generously …
I am just back from a truly glorious twelve days in Chicago. The trip was basically for two reasons, as many of you know. The first, for Exxxotica, three long days midst masses of eye candy, quality presenters, and vast quantities of willing participants. The second to visit, reconnect and …
For quite a while I have been reading a blog from a lovely young girl who talks eloquently about her submission. She talks about her deep commitment to her Dominant partner, how profoundly erotic is the relationship and how much she trust him with her deepest secrets. There is much there that …
With every fiber of my being, I wanted to be normal. I wanted to be accepted. I wanted to be OK. I wanted people to look at me and know me and smile and wave and think, there goes a good guy. I wanted to live a life that is …
This post comes from a question on FetLife, as many of my blogs do, if you care to explore. The question was basically what should a submissive be able to communicate during negotiations? I am a Dominant sadistic Daddy type. I think that should be stated first. Those readers here …
I am often asked to talk about the differences between the Kink community and what we euphemistically call the Vanilla world. Obviously there are the behavioral differences, the clubs we attend where we engage in semi-public BDSM play, the dress, the ubiquitous black leather, the use of toys, the play with pain …
In this age of internet communication and social media, in this time when relationships are easily begun and just as easily blocked, when personalities are presented as things other than what they are, one can spend a long time hunting for someone that matches what they desire. Every day I …
This post began as a reply to a post on FetLife. The question had to do with terms Sensual or Romantic Dominant or Sadist, but the response certainly can be applied to all terms used within a BDSM context, perhaps within a broader context. There is no book, no rules, …
