Please, Sir, tell me how you want it done.
There is so much debate in kink circles about cause and effect, origins, if what we do is learned or caused or a reaction to. I do not really have answers, and do not mean to position myself as one who does. But this I know. Once someone has discovered, …
I have been doing a lot of thinking, lately, about protocols and how we use them. For those with any experience in the BDSM lifestyle, the term “Protocol” is almost ubiquitous. Amazon has eighteen books listed under the search “BDSM Protocol” four of which are written or edited by my friend Robert Rubel. …
What is the value of a secret? You sit with business associates in the bar as your wife approaches. You stand politely, she comes to you and whispers a short greeting in your ear before sitting and joining the company. A scene repeated thousands of times through out the country. …
A Gentleman asked a question about what to do to assist a young lady who stated she was abused in a BDSM context. An answer from Sir Alan follows. I found it very wise. (Quoted with permission.) Do you have an elder that you can go to with this in …
In yesterday’s post I mentioned a book I was reading of short short erotic stories. I read one that just electrified me. It is called “Wonderland” by Madeline Elayne. I do not want to give it all away, but it shows the incredible creativity of a loving submissive towards her Domme …
I have, recently, been talking at length about the welcoming of women, LGBT friends and general human kind as valued equals in your life. I am sure that gives an impression that I am a kind, socially skilled animal who is appropriately polite to friends and strangers alike. I like …
KinkyLittleGirl (pardon the capitalization, my dear) has been posting some pertinent blogs on Domestic Abuse, Abuse within the BDSM community and many related subjects. (Yes, we are mutual subscribers.) But a recent post brought out this response from me. So, you want to learn how to be a slave. Well, the only …
I have been reading, through most of this week, many writings, painful to read, from Jack Rinella (Link No Longer Found), Kinky Little Girl, Sequi, Charlie Glickman, Clarisse Thorn (Link NLF), Asher (Link NLF), and many others, all begun by Kitty Stryker’s (Link NLF) masterful article in “Good Vibrations Magazine” as …
I try to pay attention when messages come at me from widely divergent directions. If a business partner and romantic partner both remark on the same kind of behavior, it is probably a pretty valid comment. On a more metaphysical level, if consistant information comes to you from discontinuous and unrelated sources, the benevolent universe …
I often meet people just beginning to explore more kinky forms of sexual expression or wishing to engage in a more Dominant and/or submissive lifestyle. Beyond listening and observing what actually excites them, the best advice I can give anyone is to seek education. I apologize to all who may …
