The difference between “Hurt” and “Harm.”
KinkyLittleGirl (pardon the capitalization, my dear) has been posting some pertinent blogs on Domestic Abuse, Abuse within the BDSM community and many related subjects. (Yes, we are mutual subscribers.) But a recent post brought out this response from me. So, you want to learn how to be a slave. Well, the only …
I have been reading, through most of this week, many writings, painful to read, from Jack Rinella (Link No Longer Found), Kinky Little Girl, Sequi, Charlie Glickman, Clarisse Thorn (Link NLF), Asher (Link NLF), and many others, all begun by Kitty Stryker’s (Link NLF) masterful article in “Good Vibrations Magazine” as …
There us a mantra I tend to use. “Listen to your body.” It will tell you much. As you look at others play, see how it affects you. Even if it is technically brilliant, if it does not affect you, then look elsewhere. Differing forms of play affect us in …
I have just read about David Lee, the former chancellor of the University of Northern Virginia. He resigned recently. You see the University of Northern Virginia, unfortunately, was under investigation for possible Visa violations (the endorsement on a passport, not the credit card) and as a part of that investigation, immigration authorities …
A little over 20 years ago I attempted to fill a great hole in my life by entering into a text based relationship on line. I was astounded how easily and quickly I met, fell in love, and had my heart painfully broken. This incident was the motivation for a lot of …
I often meet people just beginning to explore more kinky forms of sexual expression or wishing to engage in a more Dominant and/or submissive lifestyle. Beyond listening and observing what actually excites them, the best advice I can give anyone is to seek education. I apologize to all who may …
We sometimes talk about being or becoming a Master. If you are curious and wish to look on the internet or in BDSM circles, you will find many people who call themselves such. That is their right. It is for you to judge if it is deserved. Some have honored …
In the world of BDSM the concept of Dominance over another is all pervasive. While I strongly hold to the concept that every human sexual interaction has elements of Dominance and submission, there are many who feel that this Dominance requires some level of subjugation or sacrifice by the submissive to the …
If you are interested in someone, watch how they move through a crowded doorway. Do they wait and hold the door for someone less mobile, or someone with their hands full? Do they stride through and let the door swing, assuming that they who follow will catch it? Do they look …
I have just finished reading Mac McClelland‘s excellent article, “How Violent Sex helped ease my PTSD” and some of the unfortunately unrelenting after effects. (“Offensive.”, “Shockingly-narcissistic.”, “Intellectually dishonest.”, “a racist and a f**ked up whore.”) I found her descriptions of the after effects of rape and insights into PTSD and her personal …
