I am a member of a LinkedIn group titled “Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality — SSSS.” Within that group there is currently a discussion on a recently linked and extensively footnoted article, “Sexual Abuse: A Major Cause Of Homosexuality?” It is difficult for me to begin to express …
I have been thinking recently about the seriousness of the activities we do. Being a Sadist, I engage in activities which should definitely be taken seriously. I purposely cause severe levels of sensation to people who are often bound in such a way as to be effectively helpless, and often do not …
Most people here know I tend to emphasize communication as a beneficial art form. While I do tend to feel that it is valuable in ALL relationships, I think that it is a requirement in a D/s or M/s relationship. It is important that there is an understanding of significant words. What …
I am often asked to talk about the differences between the Kink community and what we euphemistically call the Vanilla world. Obviously there are the behavioral differences, the clubs we attend where we engage in semi-public BDSM play, the dress, the ubiquitous black leather, the use of toys, the play with pain …
The Holidays are here and for most of us there will be a great deal of happy feasting ahead in the next few weeks. Good food and good company, be it a broad collection of family and friends or one or two particularly close and interesting new friends with whom …
Anyone who is a regular reader of my blog is familiar with Reid Mihalko‘s Elevator Speech. (Yes, there are three links there, though the last one is down through December 14th, 2012. At least that is what it said on December 13th.) It is a lovely, though socially bold way of presenting yourself …
All through my exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, my Dominance, and my sexual Sadism, I have heard well reasoned reports, some from well respected scientific journals, about the causal association between early physical and sexual abuse and a later interest in Sadomasochism. Everyone around me, until I found a community, …
Dominant’s, Master’s, those people that submissives turn to for instructions, for guidance, for caring direction in their lives, we take on the responsibility for the care of our partners, for their physical and mental health and spiritual growth. We take on this responsibility for the maintenance of our relationship for our own …
First I should apologize. It has been a hard week, full of a sore throat, coughing, sneezing, nose sore from wiping, bed, a LOT of water, bad sleep and a VERY strange mental state. But as the Bible says, “It came to pass…” and pass it has. I want to …
I have been away for a while, and my apologies go out to my consistent readers. My mind has been occupied by computer issues, art and new people. My friend KinkyLittleGirl (Link on the right) had a repost up recently brought over from FetLife, as she said, both postings are interesting for …
