It has been a while since writing. For that I apologize. Holidays, health and births have taken my attention. But here are some thoughts. It was often told to me that it is the Dominant’s responsibility to satisfy the Needs of their submissives, but it is their choice as to …
I was once told that a three legged stool was the most sable, because it could never wobble. I am not sure if the analogy will hold through this. But it is a good place to start. I often have deeply insightful discussions with my partner pb. Our relationship is slowly …
Yes, I know, I have promised to post more on Exxxotica, but I got hit with some additional surgery, and I am recovering, so just wait, ok? However, in my bed of pain I ran across a tumblr that truly impressed me. It is the first I have ever actually …
It is that time of year again when Exxxotica goes to Chicago. There be my old home town and I greatly enjoy the visit with old high school friends, relatives and significant others, OWS in particular. I have been involved in the Exxxotica Dungeon for 3 maybe 4 years now …
First I should apologize for my extended absence. I am an artist by trade, if you can actually use those terms together, and have just finished three shows, one quite major. Immediately following that, I was lucky enough to have some surgery from which I am still recovering. All is …
I got a post from one of my favorite bloggers today, Charlie Glickman. It explores the reasons people have some of the more extreme physical interactions within their relationships that they do, certainly that we do in BDSM relationships. He mentions many of the most common reasons, but there are some …
This was quoted in a Tumblr gathered by my puppy bear and I found it spot on. After a bit of looking I found the original here if you wish to follow. ———- Dominant Traits – Submission is Earned Not Ordered In my seemingly endless quest to identify and describe the essence …
I ask you your feelings about things because I want to know. How do you feel about that? Do you like this? Do you want to go? Where’s your head? Do you trust him? Why are you saying yes? Why no? Why? When I have the answers then I have an …
