Housekeeping: We are negotiating our way through a new Theme so things may not be where you expect. Next time you visit, they may be moved again. Please be patient. CURRENT ANNOUNCEMENTS In 2017 I began passing on what knowledge I could through the Austin Mentors Program. I have continued through …
This is my first edit of the General Opening Negotiations. I realize here that this would be a very redundant and extensive list of posts, so I will not continue. However, if anyone wishes to keep up to date, please add a comment or write me at the email posted …
I am trying to develop a class on Negotiations. I have seen that most classes in kink conventions center on particular forms of play rather than the necessary but possibly boring negotiations beforhand. But they are an absolute Necessity. This may seem repetitive and redundant. I tried to include …
We live in a world now that was almost unimaginable in my childhood. Remember that this was before Telstar (July 10, 1962 ) the first communication satellite, though a century after the first transatlantic telegraph cable (1858). (Yea, I am an old fuck, just starting my fourth quarter-century.) But the …
I had a small conversation about feelings and the control thereof with CivilizedStallion prompted by his superb blog on https://thecage.co/. That and a conversation with my most loved girl this AM prompted me to jot down some thoughts. CivilizedStallion in his blog “Don’t Get Excited” stated that in moments of …
Over the last 30 years since I began in the lifestyle the major mistake I have seen from Doms and subs is that there is firm rulebook that everyone is to follow to the best of their ability or they are not REAL, like some form of Velvetine kink person. …
I have been alone, without a kink partner for a little over a year. The parting was difficult as it involved some complete untruths or half truths. It took me many months to get even close to being open to finding another partner. But I know enough of myself to …
I have been away for several months for the very best of reasons. More on that later for people who do not know me well. A friend wrote me today about a particular situation that brought up some anger and how she dealt with it. I think all of …
I hope that what I am about to say here is totally unnecessary. I want to be clear here. I am not saying that there are not great personal rewards in knowing you have deeply pleased your partner. That, in itself can be a profound reward. But I also believe …
This is a follow-up to an earlier post, so do not think I am referring to commands given to someone who has given you authority. Nope. Tiz about Dinner. Oft it seems that The Book of BDSM says a Dominant must eventually order all meals for those in their charge, …
