Announcements
Housekeeping: We are negotiating our way through a new Theme so things may not be where you expect. Next time you visit, they may be moved again. Please be patient.
CURRENT ANNOUNCEMENTS
In 2017 I began passing on what knowledge …
LDR and Textual Communication
We live in a world now that was almost unimaginable in my childhood. Remember that this was before Telstar (July 10, 1962 ) the first communication satellite, though a century after the first transatlantic telegraph cable (1858). (Yea, I am …
Feelings, Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, Feelings
I had a small conversation about feelings and the control thereof with CivilizedStallion prompted by his superb blog on https://thecage.co/. That and a conversation with my most loved girl this AM prompted me to jot down some thoughts.
CivilizedStallion in …
Following the Rules
Over the last 30 years since I began in the lifestyle the major mistake I have seen from Doms and subs is that there is firm rulebook that everyone is to follow to the best of their ability or they …
Challenges, and overwhelming adventures
I have been alone, without a kink partner for a little over a year. The parting was difficult as it involved some complete untruths or half truths. It took me many months to get even close to being open to …
The Danger of Emotional Scripts
I have been away for several months for the very best of reasons. More on that later for people who do not know me well.
A friend wrote me today about a particular situation that brought up some anger …
Knowing what you want
I hope that what I am about to say here is totally unnecessary. I want to be clear here. I am not saying that there are not great personal rewards in knowing you have deeply pleased your partner. That, in …
Ordering
This is a follow-up to an earlier post, so do not think I am referring to commands given to someone who has given you authority. Nope. Tiz about Dinner.
Oft it seems that The Book of BDSM says a …
Punishing a Masochist
I have probably hit this subject many times before, but I was in an interesting discussion in a subreddit. It was involving the difficulties involved with punishing a masochist. I thought I would pass on some of the discussion here.…
The value of my partner’s passion
I am not sure the cause of this writing. Perhaps my 73 years, perhaps it’s being alone, perhaps being stuck in my house with no water and fear of power loss for the last 3 frozen days.
I enjoy strong …