Announcements
Housekeeping: We are negotiating our way through a new Theme so things may not be where you expect. Next time you visit, they may be moved again. Please be patient.
CURRENT ANNOUNCEMENTS
In 2017 I began passing on what knowledge …
Challenges, and overwhelming adventures
I have been alone, without a kink partner for a little over a year. The parting was difficult as it involved some complete untruths or half truths. It took me many months to get even close to being open to …
The Danger of Emotional Scripts
I have been away for several months for the very best of reasons. More on that later for people who do not know me well.
A friend wrote me today about a particular situation that brought up some anger …
Knowing what you want
I hope that what I am about to say here is totally unnecessary. I want to be clear here. I am not saying that there are not great personal rewards in knowing you have deeply pleased your partner. That, in …
Ordering
This is a follow-up to an earlier post, so do not think I am referring to commands given to someone who has given you authority. Nope. Tiz about Dinner.
Oft it seems that The Book of BDSM says a …
Punishing a Masochist
I have probably hit this subject many times before, but I was in an interesting discussion in a subreddit. It was involving the difficulties involved with punishing a masochist. I thought I would pass on some of the discussion here.…
The value of my partner’s passion
I am not sure the cause of this writing. Perhaps my 73 years, perhaps it’s being alone, perhaps being stuck in my house with no water and fear of power loss for the last 3 frozen days.
I enjoy strong …
Problems with online
I saw this post on Redditt and it brought a lot of thoughts to mind.
“So I’ve (23M) been dating this girl (21F) for about a year now. Our relationship has been a long distance relationship for a significant portion …
Of a Different Kind, a Contemplation
It has been many months since I last wrote here. In that time much has changed. I am older, painfully wiser, and far more contemplative, at least for now. It has been several months since PB and I were together. …
Old Wounds
Haven’t posted in a while. These are strange times in which we live.
I have been talking with a friend who is struggling through a difficult time in her M/s D/lg relationship. We talked about forgiveness and moving past some …