Whose your Daddy?

I identify with the term “Daddy”, but there are a lot of differing interpretations of the term.  While some enjoy infantile play, that is not for me.  I am done with changing diapers.  Researching a good definition for my view, I saw the below a few days back and requested permission to quote it here.

Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants.  Nor does it imply closet desires.  In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father.  He is however my Daddy.  We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy’s) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.  I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman.

He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl.  It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.  Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created.  A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.

So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?

A Daddy Dom will be the centre of my universe.  He wants to be able to provide for my needs.  But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold me to the image he thinks I should become.  He sees in me someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status.  He believes more in me than I believe in myself.  In return he wants to be able to bask in his image of me, the image he has created.  To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.

His love for his little girl goes without saying.  He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.  She is his prized possession.  His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes.  After all, he helped to create her.  She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

This love would not be possible without respect.  A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl.  He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him.  He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value.  It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships.  In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says.  If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm.  He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.

If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing.  If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded.  He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on his part.  It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires.  It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor.  It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms.  And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive…acceptance.  She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her.  When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter.  To him she is beautiful.

I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life.  Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

Quoted with permission

The Eroticist