My life does not point towards the business end of things. Even in creative endeavors, that part of it has always been difficult for me. But I have often found great personal wisdom from Seth Godin. Case in point, today’s was about the difference between speaking, and speaking up.
I have chosen, in this blog, to express my feelings, views and opinions about what is euphemistically called “The Lifestyle”, how it is expressed and how it is lived by myself and those that I am able to observe around me. Hopefully I have not just been speaking. The blog this morning has prompted me to look at what I feel is important within all of that.
I live in a contradiction. I enjoy the application of severe and painful sensation to other people while not desiring it for myself. I get sexually excited by forcing that sensation on women, expect them to get sexually excited from receiving it, and expect them to accept that with little complaint. I desire bonded relationships with multiple women and do not feel it necessary to give them the same right. I believe it appropriate to cause emotional stress, apprehension, fear, insecurity and difficult challenges to my partners while expecting them to support, please and serve me.
This paints a picture of a severely inappropriate person (to put it very kindly) who should definitely be avoided. Yet this is what I feel is important.
It is important to be clear, direct, honest and forthright with any partner or prospect as to what I want and what kind of activity I enjoy.
It is important for me to talk with, discuss, and explore the feelings of any partner or prospect and be totally assured that they want the kind of relationship I desire. This includes questioning them and myself to be assured that this desire comes from a place of health and self assurance and not from a need to act out a deeper trauma.
It is important to continually examine and re-examine my own feelings and desires and communicate to my partner any changes. It is important to continually question, discuss, and explore my partner’s feelings about what it is they want in our relationship.
It is important that no matter what extreme of disparity in roles, behavior or expectations we have developed and discussed in our relationships that all people within those relationships are held to be of equal value and respect.
It is important to work towards personal growth in myself and assist in the growth of my partners moving towards a goal of physical, mental and spiritual health in each of us and in our relationship.
And it is overwhelmingly important for me and my partners to work towards a life of passionate joy and to do whatever we can to pass that feeling on to those around us.
Be who you are. Be honest about it. Help the others in your life to be who they are.