Wants, Needs and Abilities.
What to do if no matter how much you both WANT to do it, they can’t.
Category: Negotiations
Wants and Needs
It has been a while since writing. For that I apologize. Holidays, health and births have taken my attention. But here are some thoughts. It was often told to me that it is the Dominant’s responsibility to satisfy the Needs of their submissives, but it is their choice as to …
Thinking of a Beginning
As many of these things do, this began by being asked how things should begin. (For some reason, I am having strong remembrances of 1950’s fairy tale movies.) A gentleman wished to talk about being a Daddy Dom, and what was needed. Many things came to mind, but this was …
The Triumvirate, the Second Leg
Last time I spoke on Transparency (as I have often and before), and the necessity for those on the right side of the D/s or M/s slash (the s) to be clear and complete in their communication to their partner on the left (the D and M) no matter how contradictory or …
The Triumvirate, the First Leg
I was once told that a three legged stool was the most sable, because it could never wobble. I am not sure if the analogy will hold through this. But it is a good place to start. I often have deeply insightful discussions with my partner pb. Our relationship is slowly …
Love, Obedience and being a Master
I have been talking quite a bit with close friends and important advisers over the past few weeks about what it is to be a Master. Many areas of discussion came up, one of the most important was the emotional care and involvement that a Master feels towards those who …
The submissive’s choice
First I should apologize for my extended absence. I am an artist by trade, if you can actually use those terms together, and have just finished three shows, one quite major. Immediately following that, I was lucky enough to have some surgery from which I am still recovering. All is …