So, plans are made to go to Chicago, and I know that BonB will be there. We talk many times on the phone and reminisce about our time in Santa Barbara, two years ago. So many elements of our play go through our minds, strong emotional humiliation, deep submission, violent sadomasochism, and …
This will be a long series for there is much to tell. But today I must admit to being emotionally and physically tired. I returned a day late and through a series of unexpected cities due to Tropical Storm Bill, to find my home well and truly heated with the …
It is that time of year again when Exxxotica goes to Chicago. There be my old home town and I greatly enjoy the visit with old high school friends, relatives and significant others, OWS in particular. I have been involved in the Exxxotica Dungeon for 3 maybe 4 years now …
I have been talking quite a bit with close friends and important advisers over the past few weeks about what it is to be a Master. Many areas of discussion came up, one of the most important was the emotional care and involvement that a Master feels towards those who …
First I should apologize for my extended absence. I am an artist by trade, if you can actually use those terms together, and have just finished three shows, one quite major. Immediately following that, I was lucky enough to have some surgery from which I am still recovering. All is …
I got a post from one of my favorite bloggers today, Charlie Glickman. It explores the reasons people have some of the more extreme physical interactions within their relationships that they do, certainly that we do in BDSM relationships. He mentions many of the most common reasons, but there are some …
It has been a long time since I wrote. My mind has been on establishing relationships, becoming comfortable in new communities, establishing a new presence and occupation in my new home, and discovering new places for me in the world. Today I think about questions and the responses they engender in …
As most of you know, I am a new resident of the Austin area. (Whew, election day, very different from California.) I am reaching the end of a year long adventure with the Austin Mentor’s Program which has given me an opportunity to meet a large number of very experienced people, …
One of my favorite bloggers, Charlie Glickman, wrote recently about California Senate Bill 967, the bill supporting “Affirmative Consent”. The bill has engendered the traditional range of pundit expressions from full support for our female students in peril to an interesting response in the Santa Barbara Independent that put “Young …
I apologize for taking so long to get back to Exxxotica, and this will only be delayed further as I have a heavy weekend ahead and I was recently asked to comment on some important issues. A young mother expressed to me a growing interest in the BDSM lifestyle and …
