Because it is easy to fall in love we think it is easy to love.
Thinking it easy to love, we think it hard to find the right person.
Thinking it hard to find the right person, when we have trouble loving, we think to look for someone else.
Loving is hard work. It is not a state, it is an action. It takes time, energy, planning, concentration and intent. There are people all through our lives who deserve it, who will reward you for it. The people are there, it is the loving that is hard.
The Eroticist