Communication

It is often thought, I suppose, that in a Dominant and submissive relationship the Dominant decides how it is to be run, the submissive does it the Dominant’s way.  I often see on forums and discussion boards, submissives and Dominant’s alike asking about how to handle situations where the submissive is having …

Opposites Detract part Deux

So, here we are, this fuzzy conglomerate of matter and action, all throbbing to vibrations we are only beginning to understand.  Possibly even that understanding is beyond our possibilities.  But the questions are being asked. All I am struggling with are possibilities, things that might be.  The conclusions I draw here have …

Opposites Detract

So many things have been going through my mind these last few days.  Relationships, desire, faith, my mind, the mind, gratitude, quantum physics, manifestation all floating together in one huge unformulated mass (mess?).  How it will all come together, or even whether or not it should, is still a mater …

Catching up

OK, OK, yea, I know, there is a LOT I haven’t kept up with over the last few months.  So SORRRRRRRY!  One of the main items is mail, both snail paper and e.  Bills, well, you know, people who send bills tend to remind you.  Irritating, ain’t it?  I just found …

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Why is it that one can see on some social media sites statements such as, “I have been a submissive all my life.  I want to explore.  I want to be owned.”  This from someone Eighteen years of age. Now please understand, I believe it is possible that a person …

Taking Time

First my apologies for the absence of posts.  Holidays (may yours be filled with friends, family and joy) plus the need to prepare for a move from our large house holding many for as long as eighteen years, the following January is a daunting task taking much time. But opening …

Looking for your First Dominant and submissive Relationship

This was my response to a thread on FetLife.Com.  This is a membership social media site aimed at the Kink and BDSM communities.  The original question was expressed by someone new to the lifestyle and wishing to find a relationship with a Dominant personality but was having trouble. —————————————————— We …

Apéritif

Last evening I had the honor of attending a lecture by Reid Mihalko on “Playing Well with Others.”  Wishing more to tease you than give information you should get from him (a core philosophy to the erotic), I will just throw some of the many interesting concepts he shared.  You should understand …

Violence as Therapy

I have just finished reading Mac McClelland‘s excellent article, “How Violent Sex helped ease my PTSD” and some of the unfortunately unrelenting after effects.   (“Offensive.”, “Shockingly-narcissistic.”, “Intellectually dishonest.”, “a racist and a f**ked up whore.”)  I found her descriptions of the after effects of rape and insights into PTSD and her personal …

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