Those of us in the lifestyle and probably everyone who, at one time or other wanted a date, have seen the dance, that tentative exploration and sometime flashing displays of what we can do, all to capture the attention of someone we do not yet know. As a Dominant heterosexual …
I have just finished the second of the “50 Shades of Grey” series. It continues to perpetuate its major failing, in my eyes, that of associating sadistic Dominance with an extreme traumatic history of abuse. While I can not say that for some there has not been such an association …
There is no relationship on earth, through out the existence of life that has not had severely rough times. I have to say at the outset that this is absolutely true of me. Rough times come with the territory, particularly as life takes you from a pretty standard vanilla marriage to being highly …
This is a continuation of my blog on the “50 Shades of Grey” trilogy by E. L. James. As I do not wish to present spoilers I will concentrate on several points other than the plot which come to mind. I also should say that I have finished reading only …
I think this will be a multiple post. I have been reading the ever popular “50 Shades of Grey.” I will do my best not to present spoilers, but it gives me an opportunity to talk a bit about the difference between delightful and popular fiction, life as it presents …
I have been reading Clarisse Thorn’s blog for some time. She is a fine writer who rejoices in, not only her strong feminism, but her extensive experiences in BDSM. Though I have been pulled away for a while, I came back today and read “My Mom’s Rape Story, and A Confused Relationship With …
I think it is time to say a little about who I am. I am in a period of rediscovery, redefinition, an exploration of parts that have long been ignored. I love the sexuality of women. There is something there that astounds me, the willingness to share on levels that …
I have been hearing lately from some people who are experiencing some difficulty with first meetings. Please understand that any recommendation made can go for male or female, Dominant or submissive. I will honestly say that I was planning an extensive post here, but in checking through my links, truly, it …
I have seen, at times to my horror, unbearably simplistic descriptions of the Dominant/submissive or Master/slave dynamic. As a caveat let me say that there are innumerable forms of these relationships and I am expressing my views here on only one aspect I feel important. In comments to my last post, nabterayl …
In the lifestyle there is, and has been for as long as I can remember, the repeated discussion over how you punish a Masochist. A masochist, to my way of thinking is someone who gets sexual enjoyment out of extreme forms of physical stimulation. She (or he) is a pain …
