I have just finished the second of the “50 Shades of Grey” series. It continues to perpetuate its major failing, in my eyes, that of associating sadistic Dominance with an extreme traumatic history of abuse. While I can not say that for some there has not been such an association …
The name I use, and have used for many years, on line and in my D/s mode, is Arach. If you do not understand the root, I will confess to having a character in World of Warcraft named Arach who was a hunter. Hunters have pets. My pet was a …
There is no relationship on earth, through out the existence of life that has not had severely rough times. I have to say at the outset that this is absolutely true of me. Rough times come with the territory, particularly as life takes you from a pretty standard vanilla marriage to being highly …
In a recent conversation I was having on FetLife.Com, a friend mentioned that “Its all about trust and having fun while doing so at least for me.” That prompted a rather heartfelt response from me and I thought I would elaborate here. As you know, I have been reading “50 …
This is a continuation of my blog on the “50 Shades of Grey” trilogy by E. L. James. As I do not wish to present spoilers I will concentrate on several points other than the plot which come to mind. I also should say that I have finished reading only …
Happy Birthday to Me, Happy Birthday to Me Happy BIRTHDAY, dear Eroticist. Happy Birthday to Me I just realized that I have been doing this blog for a year this month, and feel that deserves notice. Many thanks to two very special people in my life for their suggestion. I …
I let my iPod run wild tonight, as I often do, and this classic 1978 Gold record by Waylon Jennings came up. Having passed through my head so often in the last 34 years, I was surprised how true it rang tonight. I’ve always been crazy and the trouble that it’s put …
I think this will be a multiple post. I have been reading the ever popular “50 Shades of Grey.” I will do my best not to present spoilers, but it gives me an opportunity to talk a bit about the difference between delightful and popular fiction, life as it presents …
I am very happy to be going off to Chicago to see family and friends and to present for three days at the Dungeon at Chicago’s Exxxotica, July 13th through 15th. Feel free to come and say hello, talk, ask questions, show your style, or play. I will be glad …
Heaven help us, it has begun. I have begun a second blog where I post photographs I still enjoy (hey, my tastes change, OK?) discuss issues not necessarily on the Erotic side, and talk about my art and the creation there of. (Is that ending a sentence with a preposition?) It …
