Please, Sir, tell me how you want it done.
I should say at the outset that I do not know the answer to the opening question, but I suspect. Many people within the scene life and far more outside of it tend to feel that those of us who show interest in alternate adult sexual activity and relationships have …
Because it is easy to fall in love we think it is easy to love. Thinking it easy to love, we think it hard to find the right person. Thinking it hard to find the right person, when we have trouble loving, we think to look for someone else. Loving …
What if I told my loved one that watching other women excited me? What if I told her that watching another man excited me? If I said I wanted to be powerless could she hear me? If I wanted her to be powerless, could she join with me in my excitement? How …
Any form of alternate lifestyle can be a difficult one to manage, Gay, Transgender, BDSM, or Poly (and more that I do not have room to mentioned). We are attempting to structure our day to day lives under new and different rules, rules of our own creation. But the relationship skills …
There is a great deal of talk about “sub” space. It is usually thought of as that floaty place where you just fly away and allow things to happen with nary a care in the world, very much a “High.” There are reasons for it as described, especially as a …
I have just finished reading Mac McClelland‘s excellent article, “How Violent Sex helped ease my PTSD” and some of the unfortunately unrelenting after effects. (“Offensive.”, “Shockingly-narcissistic.”, “Intellectually dishonest.”, “a racist and a f**ked up whore.”) I found her descriptions of the after effects of rape and insights into PTSD and her personal …
Next time you go out to dinner with someone you love, as you pull out their chair and move them in, gently run your hands down each arm and softly move their hands either behind them, or if that is uncomfortable, into their lap, and whisper into their ear, “Do …
Just saw a good video on Vulnerability. In it, Brené Brown talks eloquently about how “Vulnerability is absolutely at the core of fear, and anxiety and shame and very difficult emotions that we all experience. But vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, of love, of belonging, of creativity, of faith.” Now I …
“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, …
I want to talk about a kiss. As I am a heterosexual man, I will talk from my point of view but it can be between any two people. Understanding that, close your eyes, quiet your mind, breath, and let your mind remember. Remember the smell of her, her breath, …
