This post comes from a discussion currently going on in a LinkedIn group to which I belong, Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality — SSSS. Yes, even considering my previous post, I do still read it. It began as a debate over a Psych Today article as to whether …
This post comes from a question on FetLife, as many of my blogs do, if you care to explore. The question was basically what should a submissive be able to communicate during negotiations? I am a Dominant sadistic Daddy type. I think that should be stated first. Those readers here …
I am often asked to talk about the differences between the Kink community and what we euphemistically call the Vanilla world. Obviously there are the behavioral differences, the clubs we attend where we engage in semi-public BDSM play, the dress, the ubiquitous black leather, the use of toys, the play with pain …
In this age of internet communication and social media, in this time when relationships are easily begun and just as easily blocked, when personalities are presented as things other than what they are, one can spend a long time hunting for someone that matches what they desire. Every day I …
Happy Valentine’s Day. Many years back, before my children were born, I was blessed with a long term acting job as a Kiwi. No, not the fruit, a New Zealander. While I was quite familiar with many forms of British and Australian accents, both upper and lower class, a Kiwi was new …
I would like to apologize to my readers. I have been away far too long. I have been struggling with attempting to form a relationship across the continent, trying to arrange a visit, trying to give it the concentration it deserved. It took my attention. It was not to be. …
Knowledge comes to you from many locations if you are open to it. I read a post quite a while back from a gentleman (and I use that word quite purposefully) in Zuid-Holland, Netherlands, an area of the world with which I have no familiarity. But his writing echoed much …
Charlie Glickman, one of my favorite Bloggers, has written eloquently on Shame and the distinction between the emotion of shame you feel and the action of shaming others. The distinction is worth some work. I come from a background of deep shaming. It was a tool continually used by my father for many strong and …
All through my exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, my Dominance, and my sexual Sadism, I have heard well reasoned reports, some from well respected scientific journals, about the causal association between early physical and sexual abuse and a later interest in Sadomasochism. Everyone around me, until I found a community, …
I feel I am being repetitive, so assume this is coming from the DRD or Department of Redundancy Department. “It is My Way or the Highway. I am the Dominant here. I make the rules. You submit. I don’t want to hear your opinion.” Well, that makes things easy. You do …
