The difference between “Hurt” and “Harm.”
It has been a long time since I have written here. I apologize for that. As I think you know, I have recently moved several states from California, and for good or ill, I will tell you now that Texas is far more than moving to another state. It is …
First of all, hello from TEXAS. The move was far more expensive than I expected, primarily due to my inability to stoically toss things before the move. But the house is slowly coming to order, I am getting to know new people, and finding a place for my lifestyle and …
For quite a while I have been reading a blog from a lovely young girl who talks eloquently about her submission. She talks about her deep commitment to her Dominant partner, how profoundly erotic is the relationship and how much she trust him with her deepest secrets. There is much there that …
With every fiber of my being, I wanted to be normal. I wanted to be accepted. I wanted to be OK. I wanted people to look at me and know me and smile and wave and think, there goes a good guy. I wanted to live a life that is …
I am often asked to talk about the differences between the Kink community and what we euphemistically call the Vanilla world. Obviously there are the behavioral differences, the clubs we attend where we engage in semi-public BDSM play, the dress, the ubiquitous black leather, the use of toys, the play with pain …
I feel myself to be an empathetic person. But empathy requires awareness. When I see someone in pain, it effects me. Entitlement, however, is a strange condition where its presence is marked particularly by operating outside of the beneficiaries awareness. I am a tall Caucasian male, well spoken, who knows how to dress …
All through my exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, my Dominance, and my sexual Sadism, I have heard well reasoned reports, some from well respected scientific journals, about the causal association between early physical and sexual abuse and a later interest in Sadomasochism. Everyone around me, until I found a community, …
The first post I read Sunday morning was by the excellent blogger Charlie Glickman. With great pleasure I state publicly that he is a far better writer than I and has covered this issue well, so there is little I can add, but the subject is an important one, so I quote …
I see so many profiles from young people saying so firmly that they are committed to slavery and looking for a Master, or identify totally as a submissive and are looking for a Dominant. Now for those of us with any experience with on line communities, we know that the …
One of my favorite bloggers is Charlie Glickman. Hopefully this link will consistently bring you to his lecture on Paul Kivel’s “Act Like a Man” Box exercises. Charlie is unashamedly gay, and definitely not what you might think of as a Cosmo Girl. I use the reference appropriately as you will see, as well as the term …
