The difference between “Hurt” and “Harm.”
It is often thought, I suppose, that in a Dominant and submissive relationship the Dominant decides how it is to be run, the submissive does it the Dominant’s way. I often see on forums and discussion boards, submissives and Dominant’s alike asking about how to handle situations where the submissive is having …
Why is it that one can see on some social media sites statements such as, “I have been a submissive all my life. I want to explore. I want to be owned.” This from someone Eighteen years of age. Now please understand, I believe it is possible that a person …
This was my response to a thread on FetLife.Com. This is a membership social media site aimed at the Kink and BDSM communities. The original question was expressed by someone new to the lifestyle and wishing to find a relationship with a Dominant personality but was having trouble. —————————————————— We …
A friend told me that they had begun a new relationship with someone who had interest in the lifestyle, but little experience, much like themselves. They asked me if it was better to begin a lifestyle relationship with someone as new as them, or someone more experienced. This was my …
I have often mention Reid Mihalko‘s Safe Sex Elevator Speech. This video out now explains it rather well, being done by Reid himself. It was a difficult step to get to for me. What he suggests is that you should, when you find someone that attracts you, go right up …
Most of you know my feelings about Dominance and submission and how it is an element in every romantic and sexual relationship, no matter how “vanilla” it might be. I allude to it here and here, perhaps other places as well. Well, if you are considering a more formalized D/s relationship, …
Today I was tweet refered to a superb post by Renee Randazzo (Unfortunately, no longer found). While the context was primarily from a female Feminist point of view I found the words strongly echo within me. “Me and my sexuality have had a tumultuous relationship. I have been paralyzed by shame for …
I know most of you are aware of my penchant for Dominant and submissive lovingly violent sex and within that context a day in bed would sound delightful, if possible in these days of financial uncertainty. But it is not really where I am going today. Having spent half a day …
This was sent to me a while back by a delightfully knowledgeable and kinky woman, Madeline Elayne, but I had not the time nor attention availability to get to it. While I really do hope to get back to the warm, wet and fuzzy areas of erotic life, I just think this is …
A Gentleman asked a question about what to do to assist a young lady who stated she was abused in a BDSM context. An answer from Sir Alan follows. I found it very wise. (Quoted with permission.) Do you have an elder that you can go to with this in …
