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I am in a stage of my life where I am required to redefine who I am. Who I am, what I do, where and with whom I live must change. At this time, I am reminded of an old Zen story about a man who continually changed what he …
I am in a stage of my life where I am required to redefine who I am. Who I am, what I do, where and with whom I live must change. At this time, I am reminded of an old Zen story about a man who continually changed what he …
It happens over and over, every day. Something crosses our path that gives us just that tiny lift, a quantum of Joy. It can be anything. Traditional things, like a quick image of beauty, a smell that evokes, the music of a laugh. Sometime it is something unusual, the flight …
A friend told me that they had begun a new relationship with someone who had interest in the lifestyle, but little experience, much like themselves. They asked me if it was better to begin a lifestyle relationship with someone as new as them, or someone more experienced. This was my …
In an article I read yesterday one of the reported misconceptions about men and women was the following: “4. Women have far fewer orgasms than men do.“ Well yes, I knew that was wrong. “…In a study published in the book “Families as They Really Are,” (W.W. Norton and Co., 2009), …
I have often mention Reid Mihalko‘s Safe Sex Elevator Speech. This video out now explains it rather well, being done by Reid himself. It was a difficult step to get to for me. What he suggests is that you should, when you find someone that attracts you, go right up …
Most of you know my feelings about Dominance and submission and how it is an element in every romantic and sexual relationship, no matter how “vanilla” it might be. I allude to it here and here, perhaps other places as well. Well, if you are considering a more formalized D/s relationship, …
Today I was tweet refered to a superb post by Renee Randazzo (Unfortunately, no longer found). While the context was primarily from a female Feminist point of view I found the words strongly echo within me. “Me and my sexuality have had a tumultuous relationship. I have been paralyzed by shame for …
I know most of you are aware of my penchant for Dominant and submissive lovingly violent sex and within that context a day in bed would sound delightful, if possible in these days of financial uncertainty. But it is not really where I am going today. Having spent half a day …
I loved Seth Goden’s blog of yesterday (Link goes to his blog, but not the one I meant). Though he speaks most in channels of business and career, I think these thoughts translate to a far wider realm. Which are you? …competent, inspiring, passionate, obsessed, provocative, impatient, hungry, driven, adoring, …
There is so much debate in kink circles about cause and effect, origins, if what we do is learned or caused or a reaction to. I do not really have answers, and do not mean to position myself as one who does. But this I know. Once someone has discovered, …