Apéritif
Last evening I had the honor of attending a lecture by Reid Mihalko on “Playing Well with Others.” Wishing more to tease you than give information you should get from him (a core philosophy to the erotic), I will just …
The practical, caring and sensitive cure
“Good afternoon, ah, Stanton”
“Stan is fine.”
“Well, Stan, what can I do for you?”
“Well, ah, I have been having some difficulty lately, you know, fitting in.”
“How do you mean?”
“Well, I, ah, it seems, well, I think …
Spaced
There is a great deal of talk about “sub” space. It is usually thought of as that floaty place where you just fly away and allow things to happen with nary a care in the world, very much a “High.” …
Who will ask?
It is a time when people seeking governmental office are asked to sign a Marriage Pledge which seeks to define not only who is allowed to unite in any form, civil or religious, but how they are allowed to express …
Violence as Therapy
I have just finished reading Mac McClelland‘s excellent article, “How Violent Sex helped ease my PTSD” and some of the unfortunately unrelenting after effects. (“Offensive.”, “Shockingly-narcissistic.”, “Intellectually dishonest.”, “a racist and a f**ked up whore.”) I found …
Time for Dinner
Next time you go out to dinner with someone you love, as you pull out their chair and move them in, gently run your hands down each arm and softly move their hands either behind them, or if that is …
Vulnerability for all
Just saw a good video on Vulnerability. In it, Brené Brown talks eloquently about how “Vulnerability is absolutely at the core of fear, and anxiety and shame and very difficult emotions that we all experience. But vulnerability is also …
A Woman’s Words
“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, …
Be
Be yourself,…Everyone else is already taken.
– Oscar Wilde
“If I can’t be myself, who can?”
– Auntie Mame…
The Powerless Dominant, and a Kiss
I want to talk about a kiss.
As I am a heterosexual man, I will talk from my point of view but it can be between any two people. Understanding that, close your eyes, quiet your mind, breath, and let