I would like to apologize to my readers. I have been away far too long. I have been struggling with attempting to form a relationship across the continent, trying to arrange a visit, trying to give it the concentration it deserved. It took my attention. It was not to be. …
This post began as a reply to a post on FetLife. The question had to do with terms Sensual or Romantic Dominant or Sadist, but the response certainly can be applied to all terms used within a BDSM context, perhaps within a broader context. There is no book, no rules, …
Dating is a bitch. Hard enough when you are in your teens and twenties. It is next to impossible when you are Sixty Five, or a single Mother, or transgendered, or have desires or needs that are way outside the mainstream. Dating’s a bitch. I have been without a long term partner …
I feel myself to be an empathetic person. But empathy requires awareness. When I see someone in pain, it effects me. Entitlement, however, is a strange condition where its presence is marked particularly by operating outside of the beneficiaries awareness. I am a tall Caucasian male, well spoken, who knows how to dress …
The Holidays are here and for most of us there will be a great deal of happy feasting ahead in the next few weeks. Good food and good company, be it a broad collection of family and friends or one or two particularly close and interesting new friends with whom …
Knowledge comes to you from many locations if you are open to it. I read a post quite a while back from a gentleman (and I use that word quite purposefully) in Zuid-Holland, Netherlands, an area of the world with which I have no familiarity. But his writing echoed much …
Anyone who is a regular reader of my blog is familiar with Reid Mihalko‘s Elevator Speech. (Yes, there are three links there, though the last one is down through December 14th, 2012. At least that is what it said on December 13th.) It is a lovely, though socially bold way of presenting yourself …
Charlie Glickman, one of my favorite Bloggers, has written eloquently on Shame and the distinction between the emotion of shame you feel and the action of shaming others. The distinction is worth some work. I come from a background of deep shaming. It was a tool continually used by my father for many strong and …
All through my exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, my Dominance, and my sexual Sadism, I have heard well reasoned reports, some from well respected scientific journals, about the causal association between early physical and sexual abuse and a later interest in Sadomasochism. Everyone around me, until I found a community, …
I feel I am being repetitive, so assume this is coming from the DRD or Department of Redundancy Department. “It is My Way or the Highway. I am the Dominant here. I make the rules. You submit. I don’t want to hear your opinion.” Well, that makes things easy. You do …
