I have probably hit this subject many times before, but I was in an interesting discussion in a subreddit. It was involving the difficulties involved with punishing a masochist. I thought I would pass on some of the discussion here. “I am a strong sadist who enjoys a partner who …
Me or Thee, what is important in MY relationship.
First, let me apologize to you all for the length of time since I last posted. Much has changed in my life and the transition has not been easy. Relationships have changed and I am sure will change again. But, as usual, I observe what goes on around me and …
In my first post on Exxxotica 2015 I mentioned the lovely Lilly, a beautiful young masochistic rigger, a possessor of the most astounding breasts and caring heart, who had just lost her Daddy. First I should say that she has found him again for which I am very glad. For a …
I got a post from one of my favorite bloggers today, Charlie Glickman. It explores the reasons people have some of the more extreme physical interactions within their relationships that they do, certainly that we do in BDSM relationships. He mentions many of the most common reasons, but there are some …
It has been a long time since I wrote. My mind has been on establishing relationships, becoming comfortable in new communities, establishing a new presence and occupation in my new home, and discovering new places for me in the world. Today I think about questions and the responses they engender in …
First I want to apologize for the extended silence. While I will spare you the rather lurid details, shortly before my trip to Chicago I caught a bug which has seemed to be intractable. So far, no diagnosis and to one level or another, it has stayed with me. While in …
My life does not point towards the business end of things. Even in creative endeavors, that part of it has always been difficult for me. But I have often found great personal wisdom from Seth Godin. Case in point, today’s was about the difference between speaking, and speaking up. I …
First of all, hello from TEXAS. The move was far more expensive than I expected, primarily due to my inability to stoically toss things before the move. But the house is slowly coming to order, I am getting to know new people, and finding a place for my lifestyle and …
What happened that night, which included minimal amounts of sleep, was extremely significant and extraordinarily subtle. So much so that it will be difficult to describe. But the importance to communication, understanding, and Dominant and submissive relationships in general can not be overstated. You must understand that the vast amount of our …
