The value of my partner’s passion
Me or Thee, what is important in MY relationship.
Category: Sensuously Sexual
How to please, excite, and draw out the “Hmmmmmmm.”
Wants and Needs
It has been a while since writing. For that I apologize. Holidays, health and births have taken my attention. But here are some thoughts. It was often told to me that it is the Dominant’s responsibility to satisfy the Needs of their submissives, but it is their choice as to …
Why do we do what we do?
I got a post from one of my favorite bloggers today, Charlie Glickman. It explores the reasons people have some of the more extreme physical interactions within their relationships that they do, certainly that we do in BDSM relationships. He mentions many of the most common reasons, but there are some …
What is Important
My life does not point towards the business end of things. Even in creative endeavors, that part of it has always been difficult for me. But I have often found great personal wisdom from Seth Godin. Case in point, today’s was about the difference between speaking, and speaking up. I …
Behind Closed Doors – 2012 (2)
Sunday began with some nerves as it was my time for a presentation “Sexualizing Your Scene”. I mean what do you do with that. Isn’t sex the point? In many cases, no. Some people enjoy extensive forms of Sadomasochistic play, humiliation play, service or entire relationships which do not involve sexual …
With a Word
I have started this blog many times and am still not sure how to go about it. I want to talk about that magical moment when a woman comes for you. Yes, women can obviously cum for themselves, and many do. Some cum for themselves even when they are with …
BonB, That Night, The Morning, and a Parting Gift
What happened that night, which included minimal amounts of sleep, was extremely significant and extraordinarily subtle. So much so that it will be difficult to describe. But the importance to communication, understanding, and Dominant and submissive relationships in general can not be overstated. You must understand that the vast amount of our …
BonB for Dinner
So Exxxotica is finished, I am having a delightful time re-exploring my old home town. (Raised from year 1 in the same house on the North Shore outside of Chicago all the way through my college years.) I had a needed opportunity to see my admired and loved cousin and …
Chicago, Friends, Weather and Bruises
We continue onward. After and during Exxxotica I was graced with the generosity of a dear friend, one I have known since College, who I will only name as OWS. He will know why. We spent the next week together when he was not at work and he very generously …
Chicago
I am just back from a truly glorious twelve days in Chicago. The trip was basically for two reasons, as many of you know. The first, for Exxxotica, three long days midst masses of eye candy, quality presenters, and vast quantities of willing participants. The second to visit, reconnect and …